Childhood isn't all fun and games. Even young children can feel worried and stressed.
Stress can come from outside, such as family, friends, and school. It can also come from children themselves. Just like adults, children may expect too much of themselves and then feel stressed when they feel that they have failed.
Adults can help children and teens with stress in many ways. Three
important things you can do are to:
Try to reduce the amount of stress in your lives.
Help them build
positive coping skills.
Teach them to let stress out.
Reduce the amount of stress in your lives
Acknowledge your child's
feelings. When children seem sad or scared, for example, tell them you notice they are sad or scared. If appropriate, reassure them that you can understand why they would feel sad or scared.
Develop trust, and let your child know that mistakes are
Be supportive, and listen to your child's concerns. Allow your child to try to solve his or her own problems, if appropriate. But offer to help and be available to your child when he or she needs you.
Show love, warmth, and care. Hug your child
Have clear expectations without being too strict. Let your child know that cooperation is more important than competition.
Don't over-schedule your child with
too many activities.
aware of what your child wants (not just what you want).
Build positive coping skills
It is important to help children learn positive coping skills. These skills are often carried into adult life.
Provide a good example. Keep calm, and express
your anger in appropriate ways. Think through plans to reduce stress, and share them with your
Teach them about consequences. Children need to learn about the consequences—good and bad—of their actions. For example, if they do all of their chores on time, they will get their allowance. If they break another child's toy, they must find a way to replace it.
Encourage rational thinking. Help your children understand what is fantasy and
what is reality. For example, help them see that their behavior did not cause a divorce, or
that they are not failures because they were not picked first for
Provide them with some control. Allow your children to
make choices within your family framework. For example, allow them to arrange
their rooms, choose family activities, and help make family
Encourage them to eat healthy
foods, and emphasize the importance of a healthy
Get the stress out
Finding ways to get stress out of their systems will help children feel better. The best ways to relieve
stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones
work for your child:
Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best
ways to manage stress. For children, this means activities like walking, bike-riding, outdoor play, and individual and group sports.
Write or draw. Older children often find it helpful to write about the things that are bothering them. Younger children may be helped by drawing about those things.
Let feelings out. Invite your child to talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when
he or she needs to.
Do something fun. A
hobby can help your child relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a
great stress reliever for older children.
Learn ways to relax. This can
include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage,
aromatherapy, meditating, praying, yoga, or relaxing exercises like tai chi and qi gong.
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